5.02.2013

What You Want Now vs What You Want Most



Life bombards you and I with choices. It starts as soon as the alarm rings early in the morning. You have the option whether to get up and rise to face the challenges ahead of you or to lay cozily under the sheet and press the snooze button of your alarm. And you guess it right! Working from home gives me all the excuses to procrastinate longer in bed (maybe because I slumber in the wee hours?).


In the different phases of your lives, choices are there to haunt you. Sometimes you wonder if you made the right decision after signing the contract of your dream job but will steal your precious hours away from your family. Or perhaps you're working real hard in the corporate world but go home to a calloused wife who takes your relationship for granted and lives in a world different from yours until you find yourself falling in love with someone and is torn between the marriage contract.




Your every action has a corresponding consequence. It is tantamount to the saying, "what you sow is what you reap." Unfortunately, there are instances when our selfish motive is overpowering. And no matter how intelligent you are, you remain weak and often falter.


On a lighter note, someone who is conscious might suddenly find a hard time resisting a slice of his favorite cake after weeks of making healthier food choices. He might find himself contending to have a small bite over the possibility of gaining the added calories when consumed.


We have to keep our priorities in check at all time. With sufficient discipline, you'd determine what you want now versus what you want most. And the latter is the better choice!



Doodles from Ms. Dee
Inspiration from Happy Healthy Strong

39 comments :

  1. I used to be more of a planner, now I try more to just live in the moment - so far so good :)

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  2. I do agree that we really need to check our priorities. We need to choose what is needed against what we want.

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  3. wouldn't it be better to know what one needs versus what one wants? there are a lot of things one can do without, but some things which you need to have

    just thinking out loud. have a great weekend :)

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  4. Life has so many choices. I am one of the people who are convincing myself I have no choice but to work full time outside our home. I love my work now but I love my family and my son the most. I want to spend more time with my son and do the things that truly makes me feel my worth. I am caught actually, and I just hope I can have the best choice. I love this post Ms. Farida, just like all of your other posts :)

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  5. Thanks for this post Ida! Perhaps you know that I am currently in this stage of my life...I believe though that everything happens in the right time, well at least for me. I was with my kids during their formative years. I left them to work abroad when they are about 10 to 11. I already properly trained them that time and I succeed with that. Now they are getting bigger and I felt the necessity to be by their side again to guide them in making important decisions in their studies and in life. So, I think that in life, proper timing is important.

    Thanks by the way for your inspiring comment on my post. God Bless.

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  6. This post remind me of how important my family are, I often forgot my priority sometimes. Seems like I'm spending more hours at work and less time at home. I should take some day off from time to time, and just be with my family.:)

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  7. Nice post.. I like your blog, wow. Nice : )

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  8. I'm a very indecisive person but even so, I agree that it's important to keep the big picture in mind always.

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  9. It's true. Life is full of choices. We are fortunate enough to have them rather than being manipulated. It is freedom. The freedom that God had given us because He loves us. It is also a test...where God will see if we will choose the good over the bad. I pray we all make right choices.

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  10. We are fortunate that God had given us choices rather that being manipulated. It is freedom. It is also a test..to choose good over bad. You have a nice article. God bless!

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  11. This is so true. We have to check our priorities always so we won't be sidetracked by all the distractions life has to offer. But for me, my love for God and my family come first. Even if it meant sacrificing my me-time.

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  12. Before what I want most is to succeed in my career but lately I'm a little confuse and want to leave the corporate world for good and spend more time with my family. But sad to say if I give up my job, it will be financially difficult for us.

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  13. You always have such interesting thought provoking posts....As I have grown older and look back at my life journey...I realize that I never did know what I wanted ,just what I thought I wanted. Most of it was material based. In the not so young years I am in now...I care less about material things. I am content with a pretty sunset and a back road to travel, Poetry , friends and family and a deep rooted faith in God. I am so pleased to see my doodles on your blog...I feel honored :)

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  14. When I was younger, I was not a planner. I just live each day to the best I can. But now that I'm much older, there is an urge in me to make a plan. Pero di masyadong serious pa rin ang planning. LOL

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  15. The things we want are usually the things that will make us happy and content. If these things will make the people around us happy too, then I think it is the best choice.

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  16. it's true that we must keep our priorities in check all the time. now that i am a wife and a mom, i always do my best to know what i want for my family because i know that that's what i want most. :-)

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  17. You carry a very timely message for me. For a very long time I have been contemplating about getting out of the rat race, and explore options for working at home and maybe go into business. With my recent back operation, I will have to set that idea aside once again because I have to payoff the cost of the operation. I do not want to feel like I am just stuck where I am. Focusing on what matters most, and priorities in life should turn me positive.

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  18. Thanks for this. I can relate as a work at home dad. Its all about the discipline, determination and setting priorities. I am still struggling working at home in terms of time management and such but I think I am getting better and better each day out.

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  19. I am a singlemom, i am depending on the allowance i get from the boyfriend and on my earning online, lately i doing reality check as i am spending too much..

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  20. i think it is much simpler to say it is like the need vs want and priorities vs urgent. We really need to make things on its proper place and focus on what matters most to us. Nice article. This remind me to make things organize again.

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  21. Talk about discipline Ida! That's so true, we have a lot of choices in life that could make or break us. It just takes a clear understanding of where we want to go and who we want to be in order to get there.

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  22. Are you reading my mind? I have been thinking a lot lately about what I really want for my freelance career. I am swamped with work and the brownouts and heat are not helping.

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  23. I've been told that my IQ and EQ were inversely proportional to each other. Looking back at all the decisions I made confirms this. All the ones that led me to the difficult path were born of the heart (in other words, I sucked at choosing between 'love' and 'sanity'). I do hope, I'd be able to prep my children in discerning which path to choose.

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  24. Thanks for this Farida. I'm really torn between two things as of the moment. I want to pursue my long-term goal, but that means I have to let go of some of my "wants".

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  25. that's identifying your priorities in life, it need someone to focus
    well for me i already picked my priority, to serve the people through organizing and giving them political education

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  26. I do both..plan and live in the moment.. I think that's the best way to go.

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  27. Ahh.. That's always been my struggle. I was so impulsive before. Mas Inuuna ang wants before the "needed most" things. But then I learned. Thanks for the great post!

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  28. This is just so me now. I'm actually in between of choosing what I want and what is right. Haay. :(

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  29. happiness is also a choice that we need to make :) otherwise, we only become happy if our conditions are met...

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  30. I agree no less, i love your perspective dear Farida. I mean sometimes, im lazy to do my tasks and to rise from bed. I more want to sleep more but thinking how im making my day so unproductive, i have to do the other side and give my best on thta day. Always, im thinking - this might be my last day so i have to make the most of it.

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  31. i think you read my mind. sometimes i still experience this problem, especially the lighter note.. to eat or not to eat. hehe

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  32. I'm loving your entries more and more, Ms. Farida! This one spoke volumes to all of us, I bet. I agree that we are bombarded with choices all the time. But I think there's an external factor that we all need. Before I became a mom, I could make decisions very quickly because I had nothing to think about. However, when I began to have a family, I became more cautious (and wise, I'd like to think), and I find myself thinking of the far future.

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  33. I like that quote...for me it says, to always do things with a vision or goal and not to live for the moment's instant gratification. Having a vision always helps us to check our bearings and see if we're still working for that or we got sidetracked by distractions.

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  34. having set of priorities will help us identify what we want in life
    as a mom, my priorities are my kids finish their schooling and have a better job in the future
    as a wife be a better homemaker, contribute to the financial needs of the family, love my hubby and give his needs

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  35. I soo love this post. I think life always gives us choices and their are consequences for such choices.Also, like any other human being, we never get to the contentment mode forever. We are constantly searching for something, and that makes us human.

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  36. Life is full of trade offs but I know now that my daughter is my priority over job promotions that will require me to travel a lot.

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  37. Yes, we do have to define our purposes in life, and that's what I am trying to do now. I aim to write down and follow through with my purpose.

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  38. Another great post Farida! We always have choices in our lives it's up to us which one to choose and prioritize.

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