My cousin, Anna Loren's wedding is fast-approaching. She will wed Alex on April 21st. In connection to this much awaited family celebration, my Mom selected a card that is overflowing with beautiful words and wisdom for any couple to continue growing steadfastly in love:
- First and foremost, love each other: Realize how lucky you are to be in love with someone who loves you. Say “I love you” often and in different ways. Surprise each other with gifts of praise to show your love. Remember that love grows in an atmosphere of freedom and trust, not from restraint and obligation. Do things to keep your love and romance new and alive. Don’t take love for granted, ever. It’s such a blessing…
- Listen objectively to each other, as you would to a friend. Acceptance is a key to understanding and a buffer for tension and resentment. Don’t take things personally; give each other the right to have different opinions, the right to disagree. You don’t want anyone to control your feelings, so don’t try to own someone else’s not even the feelings of the one you love.
- Never stop treating each other like sweethearts. Do things that sweethearts do. Share the chores around the house. Work together in achieving your goals. Do things just to make the other one feel loved, especially when he or she might be feeling a little down. Take pride in the way you look and act, for yourself and for your partner, but never let external values have more importance than the internal feelings of your heart.
- Take care of each other. Go to the doctor with each other. Put the other one first, but don’t neglect your own needs either. Do things to show you’re interested in your partner’s needs and desires and problems.
- Look to each other for help. Don’t let your problems or concerns get out of hand and make you go in opposite directions. Be joyful that you’ve each made a commitment to the other… through sickness or health, poverty or wealth, or whatever comes along. You’re in this life together. Be thankful.
- Talk about things together the way you would talk with a friend. Absolutely refuse to say anything negative about your partner. Share your most important secrets, and never betray the secrets of your partner; treat them as almost sacred. Keep your own identity, but walk together as one. Don’t ever give up on your love.
- Settle the fact that you’ve made your choice and you’re no longer looking for anyone else. Don’t flirt. Think of the consequence. Don’t consider it.
- Be in agreement about how your money is spent. Big items should have the approval of both. Talk about how to manage your finances.
- When in doubt about your actions, ask yourself how you would want to be treated and then act accordingly. If you’ve argued, never go to sleep without asking the other’s forgiveness, even when you don’t feel like it or want to. Be faithful about this; you won’t be sorry. Do what will make you both the happiest in the long run and the best for your relationship.
- Have fun!
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| By Donna Fargo, Blue Mountain Art |
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ReplyDeleteI agree with all the rules. But if I would make my own list, I would include this rule: Spend time together with God. Pray together. Go to church together. Read the Bible together. You won't just have happiness, but you will also find joy. :)
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Aww. That's suuch a sweet card. I'd remember this, hoping it'd help me on my next relationship. :)
ReplyDeleteSuch wise advice in these words...thanks for sharing...and thank you for the kind wishes on my anniversary post!
ReplyDeletethis is true..never fail to thank you other half everyday. even the little things.
ReplyDeletei love this article, i read some of the line before but in this article you seem to draw up together these 10 inspiring words
ReplyDeleteAwww... to be young and in love is electrifying, but to be mature and choosing to stay in love is beautiful.
ReplyDeleteI absolutely agree with these rules. Work hand and hand in the same direction. Love. trust and respect each other.
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I should have read this before the wedding I attended 2 days ago where I was requested to say the Ninang's message!
ReplyDeleteI love number 9, ask yourself how you wanted to be treated, or see yourself in his shoes. Nice post!
ReplyDeleteThose are very inspiring rules, Farida! I am slowly discovering your blog and reading recent posts. All are very inspirational. Sis, I may not be busy by Sunday. I will email you. There is choral competitions kasi in the office kaya practice is taking my time
ReplyDeleteThose ten rules sure is sure a hit and its something that couples should follow or should I say be a guiding principle to make the relationship more engaging and lasting.
ReplyDeleteWow! This is really full of wisdom! Nice words to keep and remember for those who are married. Thanks for sharing. :)
ReplyDeletegreat post, the golden rules you've share will surely help couple to stay in love and have a long lasting relationship
ReplyDeleteI need this advices. :) Thanks a lot. Can I grab them? :)
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend and I are together for 3 years already. And we're still counting for more years to come. :) Hope we can make it longer.
regarding #8, most couples aren't willing to do this...that's the sad fact :(
ReplyDeleteInspiring message! If given the chance, I want to get married next year. But of course, I'm waiting fo God's time!
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